Save Yourself First | Self Improvement & Wealth
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When I was starting off on my journey of self-improvement, business, wealth building, and healthy eating, I wanted the people around me like my friends and family and coworkers, to hop on that train as well.
We all know that quote that says "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink".
You can put things in front of people and tell them how how they can improve their lives or how they can build wealth. You can even show them the evidence and show them that you're doing it successfully.
But they might not want to do that or they might not feel that it's time for them to do that. And that's okay.
You can't force people to make changes in their life if they're not ready.
That's the reason why I started making content online and sharing everything in my head and everything I'm doing with the world.
Whoever is ready to listen will listen. But I can't just force people to listen and do things because it has worked for me. I've been thinking about that and keeping that in the back of my head every single day.
I've stopped trying to convince people to change or to do things that I'm doing because they're working so well for me. The only way that these things are going to work is if somebody believes they can work and they prioritize those things in their lives.
On the other side of that coin is the fact that if you want to see change happen in your life and happen in the people around you, you have to start making that change within yourself.
It is of a fact that if you start to work out or eat healthy and improve your life that the people around you will subconsciously start to join in for themselves.
So if they're noticing that you're going to the gym or working out at home, subconsciously they'll start to do more things to improve their health as well. And if you don't believe me, just try it for yourself.
If you want to fix the world, start with just your your bedroom or your living space. Start by making your bed, start by sweeping your porch. If you want to improve the world around you, then just start with yourself.
And I've seen this work in multiple areas of my life, not just working out or eating healthy. I've seen this work in my workplace around coworkers. I've even seen this work with friends.
I've seen this work where I started doing something that is improving my life. And even if I don't try to convince people around me to do it, they seem to think, "Oh, maybe this is something that I should be doing".
Instead of trying to like push things on people, just do it. Just be authentically you, and you'll realize that you can be an influence in the lives of people around you.
Now, if you're thinking, "I would love to be the type of person who does ___, but the people around me don't do this", you may need to evaluate who you're spending a lot of time around.
I don't mean to say that you need new friends or that you need to isolate yourself from those people, but if you're spending 80% of your free time around these people, you may try spending less time around those people.
Spend more time watching different people on YouTube or even spend more time around people who have a mindset that you want to adopt.
That's what I started doing. I started watching more videos of people doing things that I want to do.
For example, if you watch people on Instagram or YouTube who engage in business you are now exposed to people talking about business, showing you how to do business things, and showing you what they're doing in business.
Even if the people in your direct, immediate life are not engaging in business, it is something that becomes more familiar in your mind,
Whatever the people in your life are doing right now, almost puts you into a box or it gives you tunnel vision. You're just seeing, what's happening around you.
If the people around you are doing very basic things, it's very likely that you'll continue on that path if the.
If the people around you are eating unhealthy food, and cooking unhealthy food, then that's just going to be normal to you.
But if you start exposing yourself to content from people online who are eating a vegan diet, for example, then the idea of being vegan may seem more obtainable to you. It will seem more common and maybe even something that you might try yourself.
What we see and what we surround ourselves with every single day is what seems natural.
That's kind of why I really want to move away from where I live today, because I look around and I'm seeing the same people doing the same mundane things.
I'm realizing people in my local area are not doing anything exciting.
They're not doing anything that I could see myself doing in the future, or that I could see myself being motivated to do or proud of doing, even though those might be things that they're proud of doing or excited to do.
I see one online who has built a big, successful business, and I just think to myself, "Yes, I can do that. They've done it. They look like me. They've done it. I can do it".
Whatever you're surrounding yourself with is what is going to seem obtainable to you.
But like I said further up, if you're trying to encourage people around you to start doing what you're doing, it's not going to work. Be that thing, be open with your process, and be a motivating factor in people's lives.
And if they want to follow along, they will follow. Don't waste your time trying to influence people around you to start doing what you want to do. You'll come off as pushy and annoying, like I used to be back in the day.
Ultimately, I encourage you to consume content from influential people. Just be who you want to be. Be the person that you want the people you love to be.
Stay motivated, and stay inspired.